Instagram Vs. Reality #DoingItForTheGram
Being the first generation to grow up with smartphones and the internet at our fingertips, knowledge and personal growth is now available to us 24/7 and we want everything right now with a filter on top.
I am no exception to this. I tweet, pin, snap, blog, hashtag, spending most of my time looking for something “insta-worthy” to share through-out my day. It’s definitely an addiction, I am very lucky to have friends and family that will entertain me, and find my need to snap every outing entertaining rather than annoying. Social media is suppose to be fun and encourage creativity and self expression. I use Instagram on a daily (hourly) basis because I’ve always enjoyed photography and discovering new and interesting places, products and people. Instagram has now become my Google.
In a world where we are constantly able to share everything, it becomes very hard to separate Instagram from reality. The constant stream of captions and photographs can lead to misconceptions being created about people that we actually have no physical/ in-person relationship with. My Instagram is full of bright, happy and well selected photographs, and is not a true reflection of my life or personality AS A WHOLE, which i am fully aware of. I choose to share parts of my life that i deem interesting and “beautiful” rather then the random panic attacks that encourage my spontaneous runs or the mess my room is 95% of the time.
I follow a lot of models on my account, which obviously does nothing but constantly create an unrealistic body goal and false assumption of what is okay to share if you actually live in the real world. I doubt you’ll see Candice Swanepoel sat in an office 9-5 Monday-Friday.
NO ONE is ever as happy or confident as they will lead you to believe online. I, like every other girl in the world have parts of my body i hate, i stress out about work, i get anxiety and more recently spend my evenings in my fluffy dressing gown eating cereal out of the box. I work hard to keep myself fit and refuse to allow insecurities to control me, something that is hard to do when you create an ideal for yourself online that you know you can’t/ don’t live up to in reality.
When i post of Instagram I will usually have carefully selected 1 out of 50 photos (no girl will ever just take one photo and be happy with that one, and if you do, please tell me your secret!) which will then end up on my page after extensive discussion and editing. Social media is what is says on the tin: SOCIAL. I’ve always struggled with self confidence and social anxiety (stranger danger is a real thing people!) so i have ultimately tried to create an image for myself that is completely the opposite, and over time, i have gained more self-confidence purely through seeing first hand encouragement from friends and family.
When I meet new people or friends of friends who have seen my Instagram, the general consensus is that i’m not what they expected, something that goes to show we, as a generation, just assume that we know each other through our social media accounts. It is so easy to assume that when people share or “over share” (which i am regularly accused of) they are showing each other all there is too know but were are all guilty of trying to create our own ideal image of ourselves, especially now that we have the ability to do so, the phrase “don’t judge a book by its cover” comes to mind.
For more photos, follow me on Instagram! @beesrichards