Over the past 2 years I've been in a bit of a slump. Although I've had things happen to me that have been completely out of my control, there has also been situations that I could have controlled and created a positive outcome, but failed to do so. This has ultimately resulted in me struggling personally and having a negative outlook regarding every aspect of my life.
In 2018, I have decided to make drastic, yet positive changes to remove all negativity from my headspace.
1. Travel More
I already have a lot of travel plans for 2018, but being able to remove myself from my hometown is something I need to make sure I do at every possible opportunity throughout the year. Because my home is a very small city, and everyone knows everyone, it is very easy to get stuck in a small town mentality. There is a huge world out there! The people you see on a Saturday evening do not matter outside of that bubble, so why should they matter to you?
2. Remove "Fake Friends"
Being from a small town and never having lived anywhere else, you tend to know or know of a lot of people. There isn't anything wrong with this, I really love being somewhere that I know I'll always see a friendly face, but I want to establish the difference between acquaintances and friends. I strongly believe that if you don't feel you can trust someone, they aren't your friend, and I'd rather have a very small circle of friends who I could trust with my life, than a big circle of friends that would happily throw me under a bus or talk about my personal life openly. Friends don't do that.
3. Control Bad Habits
I have some terrible habits that I am not proud of and try to hide because that isn't the image I wish to project of myself. Rather then just pretending, I am going to take control and eliminate these from my life in 2018. Feeling in control is a massive issue for me, so the ability to just say no and be done is going to be a massive win for my self confidence and outlook when tackling anything else I might come up against in the future (this is actually something I started to do in December 2017 but thought I should throw it in as I want to make sure I stick to it).
4. Care Less
I care a lot about what my peers think of me. This isn't a bad thing, wanting to be accepted and liked by the people around you is human nature, but when you let it control your actions, it can be incredibly negative. I manage to hide my upset about the opinion of other very well, I've always been brought up to never let anyone see me cry which has ultimately made me seem a very hard and strong person, but ultimately we all strive for acceptance and confirmation that we are successful socially.
5. Be More Spontaneous
I often find it very hard to be decisive which makes being spontaneous quite difficult. I tend to rely too strongly on other people and quite frankly, I'm getting a little bit fed-up with myself. I've proven to myself so many times that I'm more than capable of doing things on my own (I spent 3 months travelling Australia by myself for god sake), so what is stopping me from making a decision and doing anything to make it happen. Being 24 and single, I have nothing and no one holding me back or stopping me from doing whatever I want to, and I just need to remind myself of that.
I'm sure there are plenty of other changes I could make, I'm sure there will be some that I make unintentionally and without great thought, I could carry on ripping myself to pieces but these 5 are my key goals for 2018 that I feel will encourage a positive progression. I am hoping that having written them down and shared them that I will be more inclined to make them stick, I have never been good at keeping new years resolutions but here's hoping.
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